Hello! and lots of things

I haven't been here for a while, I got a lot off my chest and felt better, but now some stuff has pissed me off enough to come back and rant for a bit.

First tho, thank you for your suggestions about getting the boyfriend to do his housework. As we live in a little flat, we only have four rooms, the bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen and the living room. I've split them up, so I am responsible for the bedroom and the kitchen, and he is responsible for the living room and the bathroom. I discussed it with him and told him it was not fair that I did it all, and this seemed a better way to do it. If we have our own responsibility for our own rooms, then we can't have the 'but its your mess' argument or the 'the other one will do it, so I won't bother' thing.
It's taken a while for him to catch on, and the bathroom especially got a bit hideous for a while. He eventually clocked that I'm not going to clean the toothpaste and shaving hairs out of the sink, or wash the bathmat, and SHOCK HORROR! actually cleaned his rooms up. It was amazing :)

What has happened to Constance One's blogroll thing? That was great, now I have to check every single one and some haven't been updated for months.

NOW, for the whinging! This is long, cos there's a lot of background, so leave now if you want :)

I know a girl, lets call her Sally. We worked together in the same office, but didn't really get to know each other until about a year after I started there. She got pregnant, and went on maternity leave to have the baby. We weren't especially close, so we kept in contact by texts, and I went to see the baby when she was born. When she came back to work in January we talked more and I would go round to her house quite often.
She split up with her boyfriend (the baby's father) and we got a bit closer through talking about that as well. I didn't entirely agree with the way she spoke with him and her opinions, but it was her breakup and she could have as many bitter, pointless text message arguments about nothing as she liked.
So anyway, skip to the end.
As I got further into my friendship with her, we started going out for lunch at work every day and seeing each other once or twice a week at hers. I started realising that we really have nothing in common, and I could guarantee that if I liked something, she would hate it and viceversa. The difference is, I might not like the same type of films as she did or whatever, but I wouldn't look down my nose at it, or suggest that what she liked was stupid, or wrong, or childish, or crap (like she did all the time). It got a bit boring after a while, cos it was everything; hobbies, music, films, opinions, interests, personalities.
It sounds a bit sad, but I don't have any other friends, and she hasn't got many and I think we both secretly realised that we were only friends because we saw each other nearly every day.

My boyfriend arranged a night in with his two mates and I invited Sally. The BF made dinner and his mate John brought some DVDs (brainless comedy that you don't have to pay much attention to) and his other mate Sam brought some pudding. Sally has a weird relationship with John, they had met a couple of times, the first time Sally was convinced that John was talking about her the whole time, even tho he wasn't, and wouldn't believe me when I told her so (another annoying quality of hers, paranoia and believing the worst of everything). They kinda made up afterwards on the next night, and had a good chat and sorted things out. The trouble with Sally is that she is very intense, and after she made friends with John she started emailing him every.single.day and wouldn't leave him alone. He started getting bored with her, and a bit disturbed by her stalkerishness, and started replying less, hoping to discourage her slightly.
On the night in, Sally was being her normal paranoid, unsociable self and barely said hello when John and Sam arrived. John sat in the living room with me and Sally for a while. I tried to make conversation, but there was a weird atmosphere, mainly cos Sally kept giving John dirty looks. He went off to talk to the BF and Sam in the kitchen, where BF was cooking dinner. She immediately launched into how weird John was being and what was his problem etc.
It continued like that throughout the night, it was a bit awkward but ok.
Sam had brought along his guitar and wanted to show us some songs he had written. When he had finished with his songs, (during which she got up and asked if she could get a drink, while he was still singing, so he had to stop) he wanted to make Sally cheer up, so serenaded her with 'you're beautiful' by James Blunt, to make her embarrassed and laugh. However, Sally has no sense of humour. We went in the garden after that so she could have a cigarette, and she started going about how it wasn't fair for Sam to do that to her, and how would I like it if one of her mates did that to me, blablabla. It was a joke, and he wasn't trying to humiliate her, he was just being silly.
(OMG this is so long, I'm really sorry)
Later, we were watching the film. Sally was very vocal about how much this film would suck, but everyone else wanted to watch it and she was voted out. At one point, she got up to make a drink and the BF asked for one too. John looked at BF and told him off for treating Sally like a maid and said 'god BF, you might as well say "get me a drink, wench" '. Sally decided that John had called her a wench, when in fact he was standing up for her and messing about. I explained that to her and she wouldnt have it, and left shortly afterwards.
Her demeanour and attitude all night stunk, and she ruined it by making everything awkward. I felt a bit embarrassed by her to be honest.
(Nearly at the end, stay with me!)
About a month later, and after Sally had deleted John from her facebook and been all dramatic about it for ages, Sam had an acoustic gig lined up at a local pub. She said she was going and asked if the BF and I were coming as well. I said we were, and that John and his new girlfriend would be going to. When I spoke to BF about it, he expressed concern that she would create an atmosphere again, cos she can't just leave something, she has to whisper and give dirty looks and be dramatic. John has had a difficult time in the last couple of years, and BF is his best mate. They talk about a lot of stuff I don't know about, cos BF is loyal enough to John to keep his worries and problems secret when he is asked. BF said that John has only started being serious with this new girlfriend recently and that he was bringing her to Sam's gig to meet us all for the first time. He didn't want anything to spoil that and said that he really didn't want Sally to be there to ruin it for him, cos John didnt deserve that. He also didnt want the atmosphere to ruin Sam's enjoyment of his first solo gig. I agreed with him and knew that that she would ruin it, and really my heart had sunk a little when she said she was going. The BF decided to bring this up with her, and emailed her at work to say he was worried. I saw the emails, he was very diplomatic, he didnt blame anyone for the atmosphere or the reason she and John couldn't get on. She suggested that she might give it a miss to avoid making it difficult for Sam. I thought that was sorted, but then it turned out that she had texted Sam and told him that the BF had 'rudely told her not to go'. She was due to come over to mine and BFs the following saturday for dinner and a movie. She emailed me shortly afterwards and said she didnt want to come anymore, and has barely spoken to me since. I have tried emailing and texting her, and all I get is ignored, or short replies back. I haven't had any contact with her at all for a couple of weeks now.

It's good really, cos I've realised that she is pathetic and self interested and dramatic and sulky. I haven't missed her company at all, cos all I ever had to do was listen to her go on and on about how rubbish everything and everyone is, and defend everything that I like or find interesting. I couldn't talk to her about anything I was interested in, or wanted to do, because she just didn't care. She moaned and whined and bitched, and complained about other people who did the same. I'm relieved I don't have to talk to her anymore and that is why I didn't make more of an effort to make up with her. I don't have anything to make up for anyway, it is her that is difficult and childish and its her fault she couldnt make friends with BFs friends.

I just wanted to rant it all out, there wasn't much of a point, sorry!

If you're still here, after that gargantuan post, what do you think? Am I a horrible bitch because I don't particularly care if my only friend doesnt talk to me anymore, and haven't tried to make it better?
Do you think she is a nob?
Its hard to explain the extent of her personality here, but I feel belittled by her and I don't need a friend like that. I'd rather be a billy no mates than have a friend I don't really like